The headline read “#1 Family Comedy.” On a dreary winter Saturday, a family comedy sounded like the perfect break for my family. We headed to our local theater and spent a small fortune to purchase 8 tickets for my husband and I and 6 of our children ages 8-14. Entering the theater, we barely found seats as it seemed every family came seeking respite from the dreariness outside.
I cannot recollect at which precise moment in the movie I recognized my huge PARENT FAIL! The movie – the “#1 Family Comedy” was steep in sexual jokes, degrading humor, and crass profanity. It was a comedy about a family not a family-friendly comedy. I weighed my options: grasp the kids tightly around the wrists and dash out of the theater before they could mutter a complaint or allow my kids to watch the inappropriateness unfold and deal with the repercussions later. Outnumbered 6 to 2, our chances of making it out of the theater without a scene was next to impossible.
Seeking reinforcement, I leaned over to see my husband’s reaction. Our eyes met and revealed the shared panic rising in our spirits with each profanity. My expression beseeched him for a plan, however he only shrugged in his own indecision of how we handle the next 90 minutes.
Ultimately, we decided to do nothing but pray the scenes would get better. I regret they did not. My younger son looked at me in panic after every gut-twisting profanity. His gaze implored me to answer, “How do I handle this? Is this okay Mom??”
When the movie was over I breathed out a gigantic sigh of relief and inhaled deeply the determination to do damage control. To my dismay, several of my kids laughed and shared enthusiastic retelling of the most humorously scandalous parts of the movie as we traipsed to the car. After the 8 of us filled every seat in our vehicle, I twisted my body around to face my children and proceeded to apologize. I owned up to not reading the reviews or looking up why it had a PG-13 rating. Desperately wanting them to know I did NOT condone the language and behavior demonstrated in the movie, I prayed my apology was heard.
Finally, I firmly instructed them to never repeat anything they heard in the movie. Ever. Even if their mouths wanted to say them, they weren’t to repeat them.
I spent the rest of my evening trying to shake off the PARENT FAIL shame. As a Mom, I strive with all intentionality and grit to fill my kid’s hearts with encouragement, life, and hope. Hopefully combating the common shame, vulgarity, and abusive language heard everywhere else in our world. In the grand scheme, some profanity and sexual humor wouldn’t ruin them. However, I was committed to preventing this from being a new and acceptable norm.
As a parent devoted to raising my children to follow Christ and follow all the Bible instructs, I must be this resolute when discerning what type of media my children consume. I believe this is how resolute we should all be. One drop of pollution will contaminate an entire well. Accepting Hollywood’s humor as tolerable speech in my home will pollute the character of my children.
In our renewed commitment to profanity-free movies we discovered VidAngel. It is an amazing and perfect way to watch movies. Truly, one of the BEST LIFE TOOLS/PARENT HACK we have.
This video provides an accurate and complacency-shaking demonstration of how every word has impact.
Are you ready to stop accepting the profanity, over-sexualized content, and graphic violence just because “it’s everywhere nowadays” or because you feel like you don’t have a choice?
Just because it’s in Hollywood, your local movie theater, and Red Box doesn’t mean it should be in your home.
Every word your children hear has impact. Words can either build up or they can tear down.
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